Affair Recovery & Betrayal Healing Therapy in Houston, TX

Before betrayal touched your relationship, you probably had strong feelings about infidelity. Most people do. It is one of those subjects people can argue about for hours. But now it is not abstract. It is not a debate. It is your reality.

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An affair is not just about what happened. It is about the devastation it leaves behind. For the betrayed partner, it can feel like your entire reality has been ripped apart. You question everything. Your worth, your relationship, your future. For the partner who had the affair, there may be deep shame, fear, defensiveness, or confusion about why it happened at all. And layered on top of the pain? Judgment from others, pressure to either leave or stay, and a constant storm of emotions pulling you in opposite directions.

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No one prepares you for how disorienting an affair can be. It changes how you see yourself, your partner, and the life you thought you were building together. Each day can bring new waves. Moments of connection followed by sudden distance, hope tangled with anger, questions that have no simple answers. But healing after infidelity is possible, even if right now it feels like a roller coaster you want to jump off of. Whether you’re trying to stay, to leave, or just to stop feeling like you’re losing your mind, this is a place to start figuring out what healing could look like for you. And I've got you.

If you are the one healing after a betrayal

What it feels like when your world is flipped upside down...

Feeling hot and cold, loving and hating, sometimes within the same minute.

Wanting to know every detail, hoping the answers will somehow take the pain away.

Replaying every detail, trying to make sense of something that does not make sense. Hello difficulties sleeping, concentrating, eating, and focusing on something else. This has become all consuming.

Doubting your memory, your instincts, your ability to trust yourself.

Loving who you thought they were, and hurting for who they turned out to be.

Going into detective mode checking their phone, their tone, their eyes, searching for truth.

Not knowing what the future will look while missing the past.

If you are the one rebuilding trust after an affair

What it feels like to face what happened and not know how to make it right...

Wanting to fix everything and move forward but your partner is still spinning.

Feeling guilt, shame, or defensiveness. Sometimes all of it at once.

Trying to explain, but nothing you say seems to help.

Feeling like no apology or actions will ever be enough.

Fearing you lost something you will never get back.

Carrying the weight of your choices and not knowing how to forgive yourself.

Wondering how long you’ll be punished and whether you deserve forgiveness.

Missing the way they used to look at you and wondering if that version of love is gone for good.

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A lot of couples try to work through betrayal on their own. And I see many of them not make it. Infidelity cuts deep because it strikes at the heart of trust and safety. Left unaddressed, the pain lingers. It shows up as resentment, distance, constant questioning, or even emotional numbness. Getting help and support to navigate it all can make a huge difference.

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Sometimes what looks like perfectionism is actually about old relational wounds you’ve carried for years.
If that resonates, you may want to read more about therapy for childhood and relational trauma.

Well, what a clusterfuck.

You’ve probably already tried to push through. Told yourself time would heal it. Buried it, hoping it would fade. Or believed love alone would fix it. Yeah... no. Betrayal messes with two of the most basic ingredients in a relationship: I’ve got your back and you’re safe with me. That’s why you might be stuck taking one step forward only to be pulled ten steps back.

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The pain lingers. It can go quiet. You can cover it with hope, determination, distractions, or pretending you’re fine. And yes, that’s easier than swimming in the hurt. But if it’s left unaddressed, it always catches up. The wound needs more than a bandaid.
You can’t move forward without trust. So, time to work on it. You don’t need all the answers before starting. Some people come ready to rebuild. Others come unsure if they want to stay or leave. Wherever you are, we start with what’s most urgent: creating safety, bringing order to the chaos, and facing the truth together.

The process of affair recovery

Understand the impact of betrayal and how each partner experiences it differently, emotionally and physiologically.

Rebuild honesty and trust through guided conversations, addressing needs directly, in-session exercises, and consistent actions that restore safety.

Learn tools to regulate overwhelming emotions and navigate triggers with more awareness and compassion for yourself and your partner.

Explore the deeper issues that contributed to the betrayal.

Explore forgiveness, repair, or closure, all on your terms.

If moving forward together, create a “second” relationship (Yep, you need new dynamics. You cannot rebuild on what already crumbled.).

If moving forward separately, we build a clear separation narrative that helps you process what happened, identify your needs and boundaries, and leave with insight into your patterns for future relationships (Yep, you still have to do the work of healing and becoming a better version, even if not together. Annoying, I know).

Who I work with // I specialize in working with

Those that are in the thick of discovering an affair or betrayal

Those unsure if they want to stay in the relationship but need clarity

Couples that want to try to rebuild trust after a betrayal but keep getting stuck

Those who feel lost in grief, anger, or self doubt

Partners carrying guilt, fear, or defensiveness

Those struggling to get out of resentment, confusion, or silence

What if you are coming solo?

because sometimes we are just not ready for them to be in the room with us

If your are the betrayed, then we work on

Making space for the adrenaline rush followed by the shutdown episode that happens over and over again

Healing from the trauma of broken trust and grounding yourself again

Understand what you need now and not just focus on what went wrong and how (again, hello detective mode that keeps us dysregulated 24/7)

Seeing patterns in how you love, cope, and protect yourself

Deciding what moving forward actually looks like for you

Learning to re-engage in connection again (I know, scary sh*t), whether it’s in this relationship or the next one

If you are The partner who broke trust, then we work on

Understanding what drove your choices and what they mean about your needs, values, and pain

Finding compassion for yourself while taking responsibility for the hurt caused. Heads up, this is the part you ego hates, but promise your relationship will be grateful for it

Learning how to rebuild trust through honesty and consistent action (I know you want to rush it, but this is a long game we are playing here)

Getting aligned with what you actually want moving forward

Navigating whether to repair, redefine, or release the relationship

Betrayal is messy AF.

There is no quick fix, no right timeline, and no one size fits all solution.
But with the right support, it is possible to move from shock and chaos into clarity and choice.

I offer individual therapy in Houston and throughout Texas via telehealth.

FAQ

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Still have questions? Check our FAQ page

How long does affair recovery take?

There is no single timeline. Affair recovery depends mostly on the trust being rebuilt. And trust depends mostly on consist signaling that safety exists, that reliability exists, that you do have the other person’s back no matter what (even above your own perspective of what happened).
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The pace will depend on your relationship history, your willingness to be honest, and your ability to work through the pain together.

Can my relationship actually survive an affair?

Yes, some relationships not only survive but also become stronger after working through betrayal. Others do not. The goal of therapy is not to push you into staying or leaving, but to help you gain clarity and take the next step that feels right for you.

What if I want therapy but my partner refuses to come?

You can absolutely start on your own. Many clients come solo, either because their partner is not ready or because they need private space first. Individual therapy can help you process, decide what you want, and begin healing, regardless of your partner’s participation.

Will you judge me if I am the one who had the affair?

No. My role is not to shame or label you, but to help you understand your choices, what led to them, and how you want to move forward. Whether you are trying to repair your relationship, or facing the reality that it may end, you deserve support too.

Do we have to decide right away if we are staying together or separating?

Not at all. In fact, rushing that decision usually makes things worse. The first phase of therapy focuses on grounding, safety, and stabilization. Only after that can real decisions be made with clarity.

Therapy for Affair Recovery & Betrayal Healing

The roller coaster of relationships

Bring up an affair and everyone has an opinion. And now, it is not just an opinion. It is your life.