Therapy for Men in Houston, TX | Clear Mind Therapy

I guess you’re trying therapy. Maybe it’s your first time (and someone has probably suggested it a dozen times). Or maybe it’s your fifth.

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You keep hearing the same feedback:

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“You’re a narcissist.” “You’re emotionally unavailable.” “I can’t do this anymore.” “Are you not committed to this relationship?” “Why can’t you [fill the blank with something that makes you feel like failing]?”

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Or maybe nobody has actually said it, but inside, you know you’ve been wearing a mask. Maybe you’re so good at it that no one else has caught on. But you feel it: something is missing. You’re living in a way that doesn’t feel built for the kind of fulfilling life you actually want. The kind of life old men talk about at the end, when they regret not showing up differently.

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Is it the lying? The dishonesty?
The “cool guy” act to cover how you really feel?
The stoic face to make sure nobody sees weakness?
The shutting down, stonewalling, or sabotaging?
Exploding when you feel cornered?
Using humor or intellect to keep people at arm’s length?
Chasing sex, money, or status to fill something inside?

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The truth is, this version of you has worked. It’s gotten you success. It’s gotten you attention. It’s probably even been fun. But if you’re honest, your relationships with yourself and with others feel thin. Surface-level. Not enough.

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Why men start therapy with me

You keep hearing the same complaints: unavailable, closed off, withdrawn, selfish, hot-and-cold, maybe even “narcissistic.”

You want more intimacy and depth in your relationships (or really just for your partner to be happy with you), but don’t know how to get there.

You’ve tried therapy before, but nothing has really stuck.

You don’t like feelings, period.
“What’s the point of talking about feelings?” is a thought that comes up a lot. I get it. Being efficient, logical, and solution-oriented is your comfort zone. But avoiding feelings is exactly what’s making the people who matter most complain about you. Feelings = data.

You rely on humor, control, silence, or anger instead of vulnerability to stay safe, but it’s creating distance in your relationships.

You’ve realized you don’t actually know yourself very well (like what makes you happy?). Or maybe you don’t even like yourself, and you’re tired of carrying that around. Trust me, living disconnected from yourself is a cost that will get heavier every year.

Here’s the thing: I know relationships inside and out. I know how the roles we play can protect us in the short term, but destroy connections in the long term.

And I’ll be real with you: I’m direct. If you’re doing something that’s shooting yourself in the foot relationally, I’ll call it out. Sometimes I’ll even say, “Yeah, that’s dumb.” But I’m also here for the long run. I know this might not be your first shot at therapy. Or maybe it is, and you’ve avoided it because the idea of being seen makes your skin crawl and feel weak. And I know that even if you’ve done a lot of therapy, you’re probably still wrestling with the same damn masks.

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So what do we do? We peel back the layers. We build a real relationship between us. And then we use it as a testing ground. The same defenses you bring out there, you’ll bring in here. That’s the point. It gives us a chance to work with them in real time.

You bring your stuff in here, we play with it, we work through it. Then you take it out into the real world and try it on. Repeat.
That’s the process. And yeah, sometimes we’ll both feel frustrated, sometimes it’ll feel like we’re spinning in circles. But that’s part of it. Real change happens when you stop running from yourself. Not overnight, but through the slow shedding of the masks that keep you from yourself.

ARE WE A GOOD FIT?

Yes if you’re looking for a therapist who won’t let you hide.

Yes if you want real change this time.

Yes if you’re ready to look at yourself honestly, even when it is uncomfortable.

Yes if you’re willing to undo old ways of being and actually do the damn work.

Yes if you understand the version of you that built all this is not enough for relationships.

I work with men who are successful on the outside but privately struggling with connection, intimacy, and honesty.

This isn’t about fixing you.
Or making you weak (I know you are thinking about it).
It’s about helping you finally feel real with yourself and with the people you love.

I offer individual therapy in Houston and throughout Texas via telehealth.

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What if I’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t work?

I work with high-functioning folks who look like they’ve got it together but feel overwhelmed, stuck, or disconnected underneath. That includes professionals, parents, perfectionists, creatives, business owners, and caretakers. Basically, people used to holding it all together for everyone else.

In therapy, we can work on relationship struggles, identity questions, anxiety, burnout, grief (especially the quiet, daily kind), and the patterns that keep pulling you back. This is a space to see clearly, feel more, and build the capacity to live in a way that actually feels like you.

Do I have to talk about my childhood?

Sometimes, yeah (I know, eye roll, therapists and their therapy talk). We won’t sit there forever, but we have to look at it because old stuff has a way of running the show even when you think it doesn’t. Ignoring it usually means it keeps sneaking back in.

Is therapy going to turn me into a weak man?

No. I’m not saying you need to let go of what got you here and turn into pure emotions and softness. Emotions and developing healthy close relationships with yourself and others is just about making sure you are not ignoring half the data. At the end, that’s what emotions are. Data that needs to be taken into consideration. You have just ignored it.

Can therapy really help with being emotionally unavailable?

Yes, if you’re willing to do the work. Being emotionally unavailable is just a learned way of protecting yourself. It can be unlearned, but it takes practice, honesty, courage, and consistency.

What if I don’t know what to say in therapy?

Then we start there. A lot of men don’t come in with perfect words. My job is to help you figure out what’s underneath the silence, the anger, the jokes, or the shutdowns. There may be awkward moments. Moments of complete silence. Moments of small talk. It’s all part of the process. If you can hang in there, I can too.

What if I don’t want to be here but my partner says I need therapy?

Totally normal. A lot of men start because someone else pushed them. The real question is whether you’re willing to use the time once you’re here.

Is this therapy just about my relationships, or is it about me too?

Both. You can’t separate them. The way you relate to others is a mirror of how you relate to yourself. You can’t give others something you don’t give yourself. So we’ll work on both sides.

Individual Therapy for Men

You’ve mastered the act. But your relationships tell a different story.

You wouldn’t call it “emotional avoidance.” You call it getting things done, staying focused, being rational. Yet somehow, the people who matter most keep complaining.

Why men start therapy with me

You’ve mastered hiding. Now let’s see what happens when you don’t.

Here’s the thing: I know relationships inside and out. I know how the roles we play can protect us in the short term, but destroy connections in the long term.

How can individual therapy help men?

I work with men who are successful on the outside but privately struggling with connection, intimacy, and honesty.

You ask, we answer

Start building the kind of life and relationships you won’t regret later.